Add a 5th Agreement Dimension to the Bahala Ka! Agreement system:
The Digital Accord — a structured, mutual social media and technology
use policy that both partners configure, negotiate, and sign together.
Purpose: Social media behavior is one of the top conflict sources in
cross-cultural relationships. The platform already turns relationship ambiguity into
structured alignment for finances, loyalty, and expectations. This does the same for
digital life.
What: A spectrum-based social media policy builder that surfaces each
partner's expectations, identifies gaps, generates a shared accord, and becomes part of
the signed agreement.
The Spectrum — 5 Levels
Every user sits somewhere on this spectrum. Most don't know where until there's a
fight. The platform makes it visible before the conflict.
Level
Name
Content
Circle
Past
1
Open Book
Post anything
Add anyone
Leave everything
2
Expressive
Some limits (no explicit)
Exes removed
Mostly left alone
3
Balanced
Family-friendly preferred
Reviewed periodically
Reviewed, not forced
4
Intentional
Strict standards, curated
Real friends only
Cleaned up
5
Fortress
Minimal, private
Tight circle
Deleted or archived
Policy Dimensions
Each level on the spectrum maps to specific policies across six areas.
These are the dials users can adjust — the spectrum gives them a starting position,
then they fine-tune.
1. Content Standards
What types of content are acceptable (photos, videos, stories, TikTok)
Family-friendly test: "Would I be comfortable if a child saw this?"
Specific exclusions: malandi, bastos, suggestive, alcohol/drug/violence
Dance/trend content: same standard as photos
Beauty as art vs. provocative: the line, and who draws it
Foreigners / strangers: no access to life, activities, patterns
Threats to relationship: immediate block, no second chances
4. Past Content Archive
Bar-era photos: delete, archive, or leave
Scope: inside bar, working bar, with customers, at customer locations, anything bar-funded
Past is past: not erasing who you were, but not carrying it forward
Bikini/swimwear: appropriate context only, archived after the moment passes
Timeline: how far back does the cleanup go?
5. Relationship Visibility
Photos of us together: share the experience, don't perform
No advertising happiness, no broadcasting problems
Private stays private, public is our image
Never use social media as a weapon (cyberbullying, manipulation, terrorizing)
6. Tools & Platforms
Which platforms are used and how (Facebook, TikTok, Instagram, etc.)
Tools used the right way: to share, connect, celebrate — not to hurt
Notification / availability boundaries
Screen time awareness (not policing, awareness)
Scope — What Ships Now vs. Later
Phase 1 — Proposal Page (NOW — no SDK dependency)
Add "The Digital Accord" as a new section on the proposal page (index.html).
Explain the spectrum, the six policy areas, and how it integrates with the
existing Agreement system. This is content work — it ships immediately.
When Board 14 is reached, the Digital Accord becomes a signed dimension.
Agreement templates include social media policy presets mapped to spectrum levels.
Mismatch detection via policy.c flags social media policy gaps the
same way it flags financial or loyalty mismatches.
When Board 15 is reached, reason.c can detect patterns that conflict
with the signed accord. Not surveillance — awareness. The same trust-and-verify
philosophy that applies to status, location, and financial commitments.
Board Items — Phase 1
New board for the proposal page content. No SDK dependency. Ships standalone.
{The Digital Accord spectrum section, add to, proposal page} · 3 pts · ~a
{Digital Accord proposal content, plan tests for, bahalaka.com} · 2 pts · ~t
Total: 15 pts, 5 items, 1 board
Constraints
Proposal page only — no app logic, no SDK, no backend
Must fit the existing single-file architecture (index.html)
Must use existing agreement shortcode pattern (dot notation)
Must not modify completed board items (Board 1, Board 18)
The spectrum is a framework, not a prescription — couples configure, platform doesn't judge
Why This Matters
The personal document that started this conversation is what every user of
Bahala Ka! needs. The problem Joey is solving for himself is the same problem
every couple on the platform faces. The only difference is Joey has 40 years of
architectural thinking and can articulate the requirements. Most users can't —
they just feel the friction and fight about it.
The Digital Accord turns that friction into a structured conversation. Same
philosophy as the rest of the Agreement system: transparency via
structure, alignment via declaration, trust via shared commitment.
DoD Checklist
✓ Code committed
✓ Commit hash in telemetry
— Board updated (no board item — this creates a new board)